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Notching Up Noses…

05 Saturday Nov 2011

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Dear Bailey,

Today was a hard day. I wanted to get to the park before we left for Florida.  The drive was odd without you barking the minute we hit Hazen St. I started to cry the second I got there and saw someone walking their dog. I know you don’t want me to cry all the time, but I have not been to that park without you by my side in over three years since you came into our lives. I wanted to bury a couple of  your favorite chew bones in the mulch of your tree for the winter and help make the Red Maple grow strong and pretty in the spring.  It had lost all but 9 of its leaves and when I saw that I started crying again

As I rounded the first first corner of our path, I started to tear up but then I thought of you doing what you are doing in this picture. The day was cold, sunny and a crisp 50 degrees – our favorite weather! I even wore your little scarf.  I decided to look up and sniff the air just like you do. I wondered, “what does she smell when she points her nose to the sky and sniff as though you are notching  up your nose.?” I always loved that you did that — so adorable. I closed my eyes and sniffed the cold air, which smelled fresh and clean and then I opened my eyes and there was a small plane above leaving its traces of white whispy lines high  in the sky. I started to cry again so I looked down for what seemed to be a second and then looked back up and it was gone – that fast. I had not seen it before I looked up and when I saw it –  it dissapeared as fast as it appeared. Was it you, I wondered? I think it was you.

I know it’s Saturday night and you are probably a very busy girl doing lots of fun stuff, so you can write me back tomorrow. I just wanted to tell you that if that was you – I saw you in that very fleeting moment. I feel you all the time. I was playing some of your videos tonight for Safari and he was staring at the computer screen, but he knew you were not really here, but we liked listening to you talk and bark!  I miss you so very my sweet girl. I hope that you sleep well and dream of me.

Love and kisses, Mommy

Lunch Was Good!

04 Friday Nov 2011

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Mommy!!!

Lunch was really fun with Bingo, Ginger and Cocoa! We ate hamburgers! My favorite yum! Bingo asked me to send a message to everyone at the Foley house, saying that he is very healthy and happy now. He misses “maxie” he said and sees that you got a new one for the pack. See, he knew that! We know stuff up here, so don’t think you can get a new dog without ME telling you that it is okay! It’s NOT time yet and I know how you love to look at dogs who need homes online. I am worried you are not getting to the park without me. I know you are leaving for Florida on Wednesday, so try to get to the park before you go the weather is supposed to be nice this weekend. Get some fresh air.

Today was one week since I last saw you on earth, I thought about you all day and I know you thought about me too. I have a feeling you will head to the park tomorrow, right? I hope so – you need to go visit our tree before we head to Florida – oh yeah, I am coming too – I will be with you in spirit for sure! Are you taking my leash – I heard you were thinking about it. Oh, you did not know I can telepathically read your thoughts. Uh huh! I always could down there, but you knew that anyway. Is Safari bored without me ?Make sure you play with him more and protect him like I did – I know you will – I will be watching!

So after lunch the other day, Bingo, Ginger and Cocoa went to this great place called Tingle Forest. It’s located on the North end of town. You have to imagine that the land over the Rainbow Bridge is divided into vast spaces, like on earth. You cannot meet everyone, (just like on earth) but what seems to happen is that people on earth who are related (or freinds) might find their pets in the same general vicinity, that is how I found Bingo and everyone because you and April are sisters – get it? So Tingle Forest was really cool. The trees there make a very soft tingly sound when the wind blows – it’s really beautiful. It was Cocoa who knew about it. I just love that name Tingle Forest. So I have started to hang out there and sit under one of the trees, sleep and and play over there. I live not too far from there in a neighborhood called Hyfryd.  I love my home and guess who lives next door? BARKLEY!  I forgot to tell you about it! Of course  it is one level mainly with just a few stairs up to my bedroom, which is very cushy and nice. I put pictures of us everywhere – just like you have!

 My fridge is stocked with every food I love – YEP! TURKEY! haha!  I just touch a button with my nose and it pops open and I bark out what I want and my food simply slides out on this very high-tech board-like thing that serves it right into a bowl on the floor!  It’s so cool how it works and I do not know who invented it but they must have been one VERY smart dog! I want to invent something useful – what do you think I could invent? I have all the water I want by the way and now I do not need to drink water every 2 minutes. I tell you mommy, that is such a relief! I was very sick of peeing so much – what a pain that was – it is nice to free of all ailments but not having you with me is the trade-off, I guess. I do miss you so much.

I know you have been crying – you even cried today – EVERYTIME you talk about me you cry! At some point you have to stop at least a little. Can you? You should, but I kinda like it that you miss me so very much. You are the best and always will be. Okay I will go for now cause you need to write me a letter too! Do you have one for me? Oh! and by the way – that was very nice of Dr Crago’s office to put me on the website. I loved the Tribute you wrote about me. Yes, I have my own computer too, we just bark out the words and they go right in there – I took the liberty of  letting Lou set up an email off your website so it’s bailey@maddickmedia.com, so you can send me email and pictures too! I saw that stationary you just ordered with my pic on it – very nice! I love you mommy….

Big Kisses, Wet and Cold,

Bailey

My Bailey,

Yes I was crying. I cannot help it. April thinks I may be crazy, though I do not think so. The Tingle Forest sounds very cool and I am glad that Hyfryd is a good neighborhood. So Barkley lives next door just like here, that is very wonderful! Who else are you two hanging out with? I will await to hear about them. I am glad that you made friends with Bingo, Ginger and Cocoa. I assume they live in Hyfryd too or somewhere nearby? To answer all your questions: Yes, Safari misses you and is bored without you so I have been playing with him more and giving him EXTRA brushing time cause  know he loves that! Yes, I am taking your leash with on the trip. symbolically you are with me always. I have it hanging around the first picture I ever took of you, but I am taking it “for a ride in the car,” cause who loves a ride more than you?! Also, I have not been to the park since you and I went last. That is going to be  hard one for me. I think since today is only one week, I have not had the guts. I plan on going tomorrow because yes, the weather is supposed to be nice. I feel it will be a very lonely walk without. You will be there in my heart. I think I know each and every leaf you peed on and every step will have you in it. There will be lots of dogs there and it will be very hard, but I know you want me to do it so you too can be there. I have some of your bones that I want to sneak into the mulch of your tree. I will bury them there for you and see how the Red Maple looks since the last time. Leaves are falling pretty fast here.

Did you know that Daddy had a white gold heart necklace made for me with a red ruby in it for you? It was so very sweet of him and now we are awaiting the matching earrings. He misses you too. It’s really beautiful just like you my sweet girl. As to what you could invent…well since you always were looked upon as being the most beautiful girl that everyone admired, maybe you could make some pretty dog tags that would coordinate with the mommys and daddys that the dogs miss, using the favorite colors of the families, like red for you and me. You always loved to look your best so maybe you could do something along those lines – you are a true girl after all!

Well, I am pretty tired, we had to get up early today for an appointment. I am going to the park in the morning. I am hoping  that it’s very sunny. It is supposed to be, but there will never be as much sunshine as there was with you by my side. Miss you and love you baby girl….Nose to Nose kisses back at you, Mommy

I Saw You In the Light On The Wing…

01 Tuesday Nov 2011

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Dear Bailey,

I was able to change my seat from the aisle to the window, so I could look out and find you. And I did, didn’t I? It was so snowy on the ground and they had to de-ice the plane so it made me scared. I had my sunglasses on because I was crying so much. After take off, we rose above the snow and cloud cover and there was the sunshine. The plane’s wings were like outstretched arms and I felt like they hugged the air which one can only embrace from above the clouds and snow.

Yes! It snowed on Saturday; the day after you crossed over to the Rainbow Bridge. I was sad that I could not watch you grab snowflakes like little pieces of luxury on your long, skinny tongue,  but since you told me it was a perfect 70 degrees, I thought you were better off. I  always did enjoy watching you have fun in the snow, even though we left for Florida soon after the first snowfall.

All I saw over there was blue skies and clouds shaped like small islands, forming their own cloud universe. I must tell you that Saturday morning was so hard for me. I did not hear you stirring  in the wee hours to pee on the floor or the patter of your beautiful, furry feet. I missed your early morning, low pitched woofs telling me you wanted to go out into the dewey morning darkness and walk over to Tracy and John’s to sniff the doggie smells over there. I will never make the adjustment of you not being here because I still hear you as I lay down to sleep and I saw you just as I knew I would.

Where, you ask?? On the plane. We were in a completely cloudy neighborhood up there and yet, at my seat, I was right at the wing. I saw a bright light patch playfully stretching up and down the left wing, right outside my window in a small, shiny shape and I said, ” Hello Bailey” – Did you hear me? I thought I even saw your gorgeous long nose that I kissed 100 times a day. My friend Carrie told me a story yesterday about her gorgeous, 4-year old son Eli. When their one Golden Retriever, Lilly, died suddenly, Carrie was very sad and Eli was even a little younger at the time. Carrie’s great-grandmother had also died that same year. Eli saw that Carrie was very sad because she could not hug Lilly. In his infinite wisdom, Eli says to her: Mommy it’s okay because Lilly’s in heaven and even though you can’t hug her grandma can! At that instant Carrie knew that someday she would see her beloved Lilly again and she felt better and it helped her through her grieving process. Isn’t that a nice story Bailey?

I sort of felt that way too on Saturday when I saw you as that spot of bright light. Was that you walking on the wing to tell me you were in a sunny place and you were okay? I hope I was right. Since I was always right about you, I think that I am. Selfishly, I would want you with me forever, physically, but we all know none of us have that ability and I am completely confident that we will be together someday. Safari is snoring over here next to me as I write this and I know he misses you too.  Well, I want to see if you have a letter for me too….I love you Bailey. Visit me often. I cannot be without your sweetness. Love forever, Mommy

HI MOMMY!

Of COURSE that was ME, your favorite doggie girl in the universe! I knew you would see me up there and you are right, there was no light anywhere else on that plane on either side, because I saw you looking around and I also saw that you only had two pieces of Kleenex and that you needed more and didn’t have any. You were crying so hard and I felt bad for you…I miss waking you up too and sniffing around over there, but you would not BELIEVE how many scents are over HERE! That IS why they call it Heaven…!

I know you went to the store yesterday and almost turned left to go to the park instead of right to the store. I saw that haha! You are so attuned to having me in the car and heading for the park, it’s like you are on auto-pilot! I know you must be lonely without me in the car. I also heard you and daddy talking over dinner last night! I heard you say that there would never be another dog as beautiful as me. Mommy, I just have to say you are the best, most loyal parent to us furry kids in the whole world. As you say, All My Children have Paws! Well, of course you know the furry children with paws are WAYYYYY better than the ones with two legs. We have unconditional love and we do not care about anything about love, food shelter, fun, play and sleep! I also heard daddy say, that Collies are the most beautiful which is what you always said. I could see you with a collie, although they weigh more than me! I know you love us furry ones, no short haired doggie for you! I will find you one someday – but not now. I want you to go to France like you planned. I know you cancelled that trip because of me–of course I was WAYYYY more important! I will meet you there! You said you wanted to take me with because I would love it and that there are dogs everywhere!

I don’t know where I was as a puppy, but I never had a better time than in the last 3-1/2 years that is for sure. It is totally fun over here too. Do you want me to look for Carrie’s Lilly? I have not found Tarzan, Cheetah and Freedom yet (I have to go to the cat side), but guess who found me right away? BARKLEY!  She is happy and I am herding her around and protecting here from the bigger dogs. I always loved her smell. She is so crazy and runs around like a race track just like she did in the yards; those Jack Russell’s have much energy. Her neck was all fine and she looked perfect. She told me to tell John and Tracy thank you for rescuing her out of the mailbox last winter and giving her a home and although it was too short a time, she is okay and happy to have found me. She introduced me to a few other small dogs who were nice named Roxy and Marty.

I am meeting Bingo Foley today. Two beautiful dogs named Ginger and Cocoa came right up to me yesterday and asked if I was related to you or April Foley. I said yes, April is my aunty! I found out that “Ging” and Cocoa were her dogs before Bingo. They know what area he hangs out  in and we are all having lunch today. We all want beef stew. So you tell Aunt April and Mike that they love them and miss ’em too and they also asked me if they could be part of the letters in case they had anything they wanted to share with them. I said I was sure you would not mind. I already know you are saying, as you read this, “of course not.” I will report back about our lunch. I told Barkley to join us too, I think I am just going to adopt her cause she follows me around anyway – she is just so cute and crazy – I want to find her a nice boyfriend! ha!

I want you to know that even though I won’t be in the back of the van on the drive to FL, you will see me. I will be there and you will know. Check the rest stops, especially cause there are lots of dogs there and you know me, Ms. Social busy body has to check everyone out–well only the nice ones, remember you and I can easily tell the good ones from the bad, fur or no fur! I love you so much mommy. KISSES! Nose to Nose!

Yours in love always, Bailey

We Will Always Be Together…

28 Friday Oct 2011

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  Letters to each other – Okay, I will let you go first…

Mommy,  the ride over the rainbow bridge was easy. It’s beautiful here and it’s just like you said it would be. It’s very green and a perfect 70 degrees–OUR kind of weather! The first thing I saw in the sky was a beautiful rainbow; and I hope you can see it way up in the sky tomorrow when you fly over on the plane because I will be watching.  In fact, I will be watching you forever and I know you will be too. I thought we could at least write letters to each other from now on so I could tell you what I am seeing, thinking and feeling  and you could do the same. I know you will want to cause you love to write letters and you already taught me how to write on here, so I am ready.

I want you to know that I am thinking about how we did not have enough physical time on earth together, but it is said that quality is better than quantity and certainly we had that didn’t we? The only thing I remember in my life is the year before we met when you rescued me from Angels for Animals. It was hard being there for a year, because as you know I am very social, but there were too many dogs barking there all the time. We might have only had 3 years, 4 months and 8 days but every single one of them was better than the 6 I spent without you and I know you feel the same way…

 There could never be enough time with you because you took the very BEST care of me. I know I had health problems from the get go but you helped me get rid of those but no one has cured cancer yet and I don’t know why I had to get bladder cancer but you helped me through it and get over the Rainbow Bridge, which was just as hard for you, I know. I am glad I don’t have to pee every 5 minutes anymore! I can run and jump just like you said, my legs feel great and I don’t need those stupid pills which were affecting my stomach, but you already know that. You knew every nuance about me and my body usually before I did. I always said you were very smart!

I am going to miss you giving me my treats but here there are bowls of them everywhere for anyone to take, but I still loved when you fed them to me. I was thinking about how you did everything for me. You cooked for me, cleaned for me, fed me, bathed me, groomed and brushed me, walked a lot with me  at Buhl Park. (I LOVE my Red Maple Tree! ) – we did everything together didn’t we?! Most of all you loved me better than anyone. By the way, when I was getting sleepy, I heard Dr. Crago tell you how you went beyond the call of duty and no one else would have been so good to me. You really did. You are a very loyal person – Daddy has told me that too, by the way – he LOVES that about you! Well, so am I. You always said we are a lot alike and I agree. So, I will stay in your heart forever and even though I am not there where you can see me (except you do have 10,000 pictures of me!)  – I am there in your mind, your heart and our souls are forever connected. I will help you select another dog, but not immediately! I appreciated you sending me off with my favorite bones, treats and toys. Tell Aunti April thank you so much for the pillow she had made with yours and my picture on it. I loved that and it made me comfortable. I took it with me over here but that is something I cannot share because it’s so personal to me.  Did you see that I left a bunch of toys in the basket that I bequeath to the next lucky dog who gets to share their life with us. Of course NO DOG will ever replace me, I know that. I am your first doggie love and certainly the best! And only I GET A BLOG….

So now we will write letters and keep this adventure going mommy. I know you didn’t want it to end and neither do I. You and I will never have an ending, only a new beginning…With all my love and kisses, Bailey xoxooxox

Bailey it is true, we will never be apart. I am trying so hard not to put a question mark where there is a period.  Already I see you and feel you around me in everything and yes, we will continue to write each other letters – that is the perfect idea my lovely girl. I am glad you liked the tree I got you at Buhl Park – certainly this was our very special place of peace, exercise and social activity and I will visit your Red Maple all the time when I walk there. It will be awful lonely walking there without you, so when you find a dog someday for us, please make sure it likes to walk as much as you and I did, because we logged hundreds of miles and you know how I love to walk in the park. And of course you added to it’s beauty. I am so proud that each and everytime I took you there (and everywhere) we were stopped, quite literally, by people telling me how gorgeous, how soft and sweet you are. Yes you are all of that and so much more.

When I was crying my eyes out this morning ( and for the last month) and told you that you are the best dog, I loved that each time I said it, you kissed my lips right at that very moment. You KNEW you are the best girl ever. Just like when I met Russell, you too gave me a one true kiss and then I knew – just like I did with him. You are so right, there will never be another you as you are my first and forever my doggie love. Again, I will await the sign from you, because you chose me too you know, so we both have good taste and we can easily recognize the good people from the bad ones.

We were so lucky to find each other. You know, many people do not take a chance on a senior dog, but I am sure glad we did. More people should but I can understand that it can be very hard to not have the quantity of time one would like to have, but the quality is something I would never trade. You have taught me so much and I can never thank you enough; well maybe I did. You got to have a great senior life and that was the goal. You got to go for 10,000 rides in 2 different cars, trips to FL, two houses, and countless rotisserie chickens, and low sodium turkey, your own doggie beach and boat and we made many, many doggie friends along the way. If only I could have taken you on a cruise that would have been the best! Someday I think there will be something like that!

Speaking of which, remember I told you to look for certain people: Barkley is there – find her because you two loved each other and I know you miss her because you were sniffing over at John & Tracy’s everyday since she went over the Rainbow Bridge so kiss her too for me….Also find Bingo Foley and Marlowe Sulski and if you can find Tarzan, Cheetah and Freedom for me – yes they are cats, but you like cats; especially their food and I know they would share with you!  Give them all my hugs and kisses okay?  You never got to meet Bingo or Marlowe, but I know you would love them. Bingo is a boy and Marlowe is obviously a girl, like you. And according to her also-very-devoted and very special Daddy Jeff, much like you! Feisty, tenacious, beautiful, loyal and loving – one rarely experiences all those great qualities in people – but those of us in the know – realize that you all have it going on way better than humans do. No one loves unconditionally like a dog; especially you, my perfect one.

It’s been a long day for both of us my sweet girl. I will look for you as I fly the sky tomorrow. I will be wearing red, just like you, so look for me and we will send a sign to each other. Goodnight for now my Bailey. Here is to our new beginning..

 We both love you so very much xxxoxoox

PS:  Safari is sitting here next to me on the desk as I write to you. He wants me to tell you that he did not eat much of his dinner cause he is not sure where you went; it might take him a while. You know, as I like to say, a cat is and dog does.

An Adoption Anniversary…

19 Tuesday Jul 2011

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 Tomorrow is July 20th. Three years ago it was a Friday and my husband and I were in the middle of getting a screened in porch added on to our home and we were planning to adopt a dog. I had a picture from Petfinder sitting on my desk with two Border Collie mixes, one named Bailey with a wonderful smile, who was estimated to be 7 and a young one, whose name I now cannot recall.

I got in my Honda CRV late in the afternoon to head out to Angels for Animals in Columbiana, Ohio, where these two dogs seeking homes were living. Arriving by myself, I asked to see the young one first but immediately they told me that she was going to be a very large dog, so I asked to see Bailey instead. I told them that she had to get along with cats because I had a 7 year old cat whom I loved with all my heart.

I could not know then, what I know now, of course. I truly believe that Bailey could have only wound up in my care. She has not been the easiest of dogs. She was slightly incontinent when we got her, leaking a drop here or there, but not a big deal. She’s IS a Border Collie, so she is on the hyper side of hyper, but from the moment that girl jumped into the back of my CRV with such exuberance, she has been happy – sometimes a whiner, but happy to have people who work from home and can take of her and love her.

This past November she had her surgery for bladder cancer. Lucky for her and us, that it was located not at the neck of the bladder, (where it is commonly found) but far at the other end, making her a great candidate for Dr. Larry to operate at Estero Animal Hospital in Estero, Fl.  His compassion, patience and skilled hands made us a little less crazy and her recovery quicker. She takes her peroxicam daily, although some days we skip it if I feel her tummy is upset.  A smaller bladder equals more urination and the disease makes her so thirsty, so it’s hard to withhold water. Kind of a vicious cycle.

I’m a Pisces. It is said that my sign is the most compassionate and that we make the best mothers of all the signs. Since all my children have had paws and fur, I can only go by my experience, but I am like that. A recent visit from my dear college friend, named Catherine, told my husband that I was always taking such good care of my cats – even when I worked 2 jobs and went to school full-time. Somehow my personality allows me to juggle a lot, well. Bailey commands that time and attention as well as Safari because they are both sweet seniors.

So as tomorrow approaches, I can hardly imagine only 3 years have passed by. Today when we went to see Kari at Petsmart for a nice sanitary cut, she could not believe it was only 3 years since Bailey graced our lives. Bailey just leaves an impression on everyone – that she does.

A Walk in the Park

15 Wednesday Jun 2011

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When the weather finally decided to cool down, Bailey and I planned to take advantage of the crisp air and head for our favorite park in Sharon, Pennsylvania. My husband commented to me that I was like “an old person because all you want to do is go to the park, walk Bailey and go out to lunch.” Although I laughed, half-heartedly, I quipped back that he did not realize all he was missing by walking in this beautiful, expansive park.  He said “It’s just a park.”

To us, Buhl Park is not simply “a park.” I revel to see new things there each and every time we walk and this particular day would be no different.  There is a man, we have been seeing in a  motorized scooter most recently who is there fishing with his not-fancy pole, catching catfish. He has an American flag attached to his chair and carries his fishing equipment in a bright green Shop & Save reusable bag. We have chit chatted the last few walks and he is a very nice gentleman. I think he is a miltary vet, and next time I plan to ask him his name. He likes Bailey, as does everyone she comes into contact with, and she makes him smile, which in turn makes me happy.

As we walked toward the one small play area, we saw a set of three siblings flying high on the swings, with the sychronized pushes of their parents. As we got closer, the mom had sat down to take a break and said, “what a beautiful dog you have. Gosh she is pretty.” “Thanks I said, on behalf of Bailey.” “Doggie! Doggie!” one of the little ones screamed out as the wind swept her hair behind her tiny blonde . head. “Hi doggie!”  I waved to her, acknowledging her joyful greeting.

Later when we would circle the entire park, we decided to make one pass around Lake Julia, where the ducks and the big geese  have recently all had babies and the big white Swans are so used to dogs walking through the park, they just sit there and let you say hello up close. We had seen the young boy in the stoller staring upward toward the sky as we walked inside the park, but now his young caretaker –could have been a brother perhaps, was sitting on a bench with the young boy  in the stroller. I think the boy smelled Bailey because he started to stir in his chair and I noticed as we approached he was about 11 or 12 and he was blind and had cerebral palsy. Bailey has always gravitated toward wheel chairs, so I moved her closer. I was not sure the boy could even hear  but I told him she was a beautiful dog named Bailey and was very friendly. I gently took his twisted-up little arm and helped him stroke Bailey’s soft fur. Immediately he was wrangling around in the stroller and, upon feeling Bailey, he gave out a crooked little smile, with all the muscles his little crippled body would allow.  Bailey did not realize it, or maybe she did, that she made a little boy’s day and certainly she made mine because all it takes is a walk in the park….

The Second Time Around…

23 Sunday Jan 2011

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Like we always do, with Bailey at my feet and Safari on my lap, we watched CBS Sunday morning this morning. A ritual I have maintained since the show first aired more than 25 years ago. One of the stories today by reporter Barry Peterson http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2011/01/23/sunday/main7274728.shtml?tag=cbsnewsTwoColUpperPromoArea was very poignant about his wife who has Alzheimers disease. He remains very much in her life, even though he now lives with his new mate, a widow who kindly said, “I always knew it was a relationship of three.” I loved that comment.

How that relates to this blog is because it made me think of second chances. It was something I was able to give, of myself, to my beautiful dog Bailey – one of the few truly loving people I have ever known. I will never know what the first 5 years of her life were all about – as a writer and former reporter that drives me crazy. I know her 6th year was spent at Angels for Animals in Canfield, Ohio and then I came along soon after her 7th birthday.

Second chances have been a continuing theme in my life, when I think about it. First, as a person who endured a short, kind of pointless marriage right out of college and then fortunately met the real love of my life later on when I was 30. When we met we talked about second chances and have always agreed that love is better the second time around…I am not dismissing those, like my sister April, who has been happily married to her husband forever, but for those who made a wrong turn, second chances are vital and somehow hold a greater strength within.

I have always had cats. I still do.  My ultimate favorite cat in my life thus far has been Cheetah, a calico so sweet you could just not find a more perfect personality. Anais Nin, the great erotic writer, had a female cat to whom she was so close that after the cat passed away she vowed never to get another cat. That is how I felt about female cats after Cheetah’s life with me after 18 years ended. Bailey is a girl, but not a cat. Oddly, she has a very similar loving way about her. Cheetah was not needy like Bailey – after all, she was a feline, but  people simply felt her love. That is how people feel when they meet Bailey. It warmed my heart yesterday at the farmer’s market when a perfect stranger let Bailey lick him right on the mouth, giving her kisses right back. His wife said, “he is a true dog lover.” He summoned his adult kids to come over and meet her and feel “how soft and sweet she is. She acts as though she knows me!”

Another second chance in my life is when I saved my entire family from being killed by carbon monoxide. Had I not stayed out late one night (against my dad’s wishes) while home on Thanksgiving break during college, they would have all died, all at once and my life would have changed forever. Although everyone lived, my life was still different after that day. I appreciate life more than most people I know, except perhaps my dad, who is another person for who second chances made an impact.

After my mother died at age 48 of breast cancer, he was able to meet the love of his life at age 50 and get married at age 52. He got the perfect second chance with Harriet, with who he seems happier than anytime I can recall my parent’s marriage – and for that I am so grateful.

There are so many people who do not support second chances. Examples would be those that choose to go to a breeder instead of rescuing a cat or dog from a shelter. There are the kids of first marriages who are forever pissed off that their parents are remarried after death or divorce, instead of being happy for them. There are people who don’t want to help someone with connections after they lose a job because they are protective of their own. The list goes on.

Bailey and I are so happy for second chances because we are each other’s – my femme fatale, who rides in the car with me everywhere I go and expects goodnight kisses and a treat before bed. Love is better the second time around… perhapsbecause you appreciate it and cherish it so much more.